This weekend I was lucky enough to attend the Academy of Art graduation for my friend and dog walker. I could not help be deeply touched by the excitement of the students and their families. I was so honored to be a part of the special day and celebrations. The energy was buzzing and I could feel the ending of one chapter and starting of another.
I fondly reminisced on my graduation day from Purdue University in May of 2008. It’s hard to believe that 8 years have pasted since that day. The spring represents new beginnings for me in several ways. It’s often hard to close chapters in our lives and to lose people who were once so close to us. Someone who felt like home to us and is now a stranger.
I admittedly struggle with holding on to past friendships and loves, being consumed by the hurt and missing them so much my body physically hurts. I sometimes just lay in my bed, numb and angry playing all of the memories on a loop in my head. I wish I could say that the older I get it becomes easier. However the more break-ups I go through and the ending of friendships the more pain I feel.
In my darkest hour I dig down super deep and find there is a dim little light inside of me. The sadness slowly starts to dissipate, the light grows a little bit, it’s easier to see clearly. When I want to curl into a ball of depression, I keep pushing. I go to spin class, diffuse essential oils, meditate, practice yoga, forgive myself, accept my path and send light to all those I have loved and whom have loved me.
The remarkable thing is, life is always changing. YOUR path is YOURS and YOURS alone. I challenge you to think about change in a new way. Think about new relationships and ending of friendships in a different way. Every single person who comes into your life for a reason, everyone who exits your life is for a reason too. When you want to give up and quit is the exact moment when you need to sprint.
Congratulations to my friend Sandy and to all of the graduates of the class of 2016! My advice is instead of wishing for the past and ruminating on what you could have done different, be quiet. Instead of thinking about the future constantly, sit still. Don’t let your mind control you. Just breathe. Let go of what was, as painful as it is. Just let it go. Come home to yourself and know that there will always be new beginnings. There is somewhere better, there is soooo much on the other side.